Most parents want their children to be socially active and careless. Even if kids progress in natural, predictable sequence, fulfilling each age-appropriate development milestone, the mere fact that they are quiet and prefer being alone, rather than being surrounded by people, or feel more comfortable in the company of someone familiar, often raises concern among parents.
The real question is…Why?
The truth is, some kids are introverted by nature. It is as simple as that. Introversion is a personality trait, which raises discomfort among people due to common misconceptions about the issue and the tendency to label it as a personality disorder that supposedly causes introverts to be anti-social, difficult and even pigheaded.
So, what is introversion really about?
Introversion is a personality trait that simply indicates relative lack of enthusiasm about socializing. Even though many parents believe that introversion is a choice or an attitude of sorts, the truth is that introversion is a unique perspective that allows your child to cope with the world.
Introverts get their energy by focusing inside themselves and need ample alone time and personal space to “recharge” themselves. They prefer internal thinking over social connections as a way to cope with the world.
Introverts are neither shy not lonely. In fact, one of the key characteristics of an introvert is heightened sensitivity towards common social labels, and while most parents are busy worrying about their kids due to exposure to conventional wisdom, introverts actually find this trait rather helpful in a variety of ways:
- Introverts are good listeners;
- They tend to learn a lot through observation;
- Introverted children might not show great interest towards others and be quite reserved as well, but this hesitation allows them to act with extra precaution and make informed decisions—both in everyday life and while crossing important milestones, once they become adults.
- Introverts are less vulnerable to peer pressure.
- Since introverted children tend to maintain intimate relationships with their family members and friends, it is much likely that parents will manage to stay close and be of great help, if need be—for example, during puberty.
- Introverts tend to have their personal opinion and are rarely influenced by popular trends or social media, which allows them to take the right steps towards personal development.
For those of you looking for real-life examples of introversion to get the full picture, here is a short list of some of the most successful and self-fulfilled introverts we know: Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Bill Gates and J.K. Rowling.
Written by: Likuna Khazaradze