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Which parenting style do you think you fall under? According to scholars, even though one may come across a variety of parenting styles, the following three prevail: Authoritarian, Authoritative and Permissive.

Each parenting style may serve as a solid foundation for prediction of potential strengths and mental or physical hazards of a child down the road.

Aren’t you curious to find out which parenting style you fall under?

Which one of the following statements would you identify with?

1. When it comes to rules, I firmly believe that “it’s my way or the highway” and my kid should simply obey. A kid is a kid for a reason—incapable of processing certain matters and thus in constant need for my supervision.

2. My kid is allowed to talk to me about problems. I rarely criticize his/her behavior, as I firmly believe that he/she will end up learning lots of things without my intervention. And, most importantly, rules were made to be broken!

3. 3. I put a lot of effort into ensuring I have a positive relationship with my kid. We have come up with a set of mutually understandable, clear rules together. Violation of these rules always has its consequences, but I make sure to take my kid’s feelings into consideration.

4. 4. I make sure my kid is well fed and secure. There are no rules between us. Neither do I expect anything from him/her nor do I display any anger. I have no idea about his/her interests and sometimes, I don’t even have a clue as to where and who he/she is spending time with.

What are authoritarian parents like?  

If the first statement above sounds like you the most, you fall under the authoritarian parenting style.

Authoritarian parenting is the strictest and based largely on “traditional” beliefs, based on which affection and lack of punishment only end up spoiling our children.

Such parents firmly believe that kids should follow in their footsteps blindly. If a kid does not identify with a specific rule and cannot see why a certain behavior is anticipated, an authoritarian parent has a single answer: “Because I said so.”

Instead of taking the time to teach kids about discipline, authoritarian parents revert to punishment. Instead of taking the time to teach kids how to make better decisions in the future, they actually make their kids feel guilty.

Quite frequently, kids of authoritarian parents have very low self-esteem. The sole reason behind that is the fact that their opinion is rarely valued. Such kids may often display aggression or lie to avoid punishment. They are much more prone to depression and have dismal social skills.

What are permissive parents like?

Permissive parenting style is the exact opposite of the authoritarian one and if the second statement sounds like you the most, that must be your parenting style. Instead of establishing strict rules, permissive parents choose to have no expectations towards their children. In their minds, rules are virtually nonexistent, and it really does not mean anything if their broken..

Such parents are extremely lenient. They might say no but will often give in if a child begs.

Permissive parents are great listeners and are always aware of their children’s problems—without ever saying what is bad or unacceptable. Such parents usually take on more of a friend role than that of a parent, frequently stepping in only when there’s a serious problem.

This parenting style does sound like a perfect one, with ample affection and love, but… In reality, there are no boundaries in such relationships, which is bound to lead to discipline-related issues down the road. As a result, kids end up struggling academically, exhibiting behavioral problems and, most importantly, being at higher risk for health problems.

Children of permissive parents are likely to suffer from lack of healthy habits, such as brushing their teeth or limiting junk food.

What are authoritative parents like?

Authoritative parenting is the golden mean between extreme forms of stringency and lenience. Authoritative parents, too, establish clear rules and use positive discipline--but all with their children’s thoughts and feelings in mind.

This parenting style reinforces good behavior through positive discipline, allowing kids to feel loved while simultaneously learning to respect others.

Researchers have found that kids of authoritative parents are most likely to develop into responsible adults who feel comfortable speaking their minds, are happy and successful, and capable of making the right decisions through thorough risk analysis.

What are uninvolved parents like?

Uninvolved children display virtually no interest or affection towards their children and rarely spend time with them. With them, there are no boundaries or limitations.

Such parents tend to be completely out of reach—mostly because they are often exhausted or overwhelmed by a variety of other problems.

Children of uninvolved parents are extremely likely to rank low in happiness. Most of them have low self-esteem, struggle academically and find it hard to achieve emotional balance. What is more, they might even end up breaking the law in their adulthood.

And finally…

Parents do not always fall under a single category. You might be more permissive at times, but strict at others. There will be moments when you might even choose to stay relatively indifferent.

All you really have to remember is to give your best to finding the most effective parenting style that is right for you.

And do not fear changes either. But do keep in mind that research proves continuously how effective the authoritative parenting style really is.